For Intended Parents: Dispelling the Myths Behind Egg Donation
Using and finding an egg donor can be an emotional process. While the process of IVF has become increasingly well-recognized and discussed in popular media, egg donation hasn’t gotten quite as much attention. This means there are some common misconceptions out there regarding third-party reproduction. Here are a few myths about using third-party reproduction to start or grow your family.
“Any process that involves the health and well-being of multiple people, including a potential new life, is going to be complex. The best way to dispel any fears or concerns about third-party reproduction is to learn about the process.”
Myth #1: It won’t really be my baby
As countless adoptive families know, love is about way more than just genetic material. Studies have shown that parent-child bonding relies on lots of different factors other than shared DNA. And beyond that, the bonding process can look different for each family, even from child to child. It’s normal to feel a strong bond as soon as the pregnancy starts. It’s just as normal to not feel that bond right away. We have lots of resources to help answer any questions you have, but the most important thing is: a baby born from third-party reproduction is your baby because you chose to bring it into the world. That desire and love is what makes a family – everything else is extra.
Myth #2: Egg donors are just looking for a quick cashout
Because egg donors are young women, and because they receive compensation for their time and commitment, the misconception exists that donors are just looking to make some quick cash, or that the process takes advantage of young women in financial need. In reality, the vast majority of egg donors generously choose to donate because they truly, sincerely wish to help intended parents have children. The screening process ensures that all candidates are fully informed of the process, ramifications, and risks, so they can make fully educated decisions. Many egg donors identify a personal reason for choosing to become an egg donor, such as seeing a family member go through the process or medical interest to gain knowledge of the IVF process.
Myth #3: Using third-party reproduction is really legally complicated
Of course, any process that involves the health and well-being of multiple people, including a potential new life, is going to be complex. And the laws that exist regarding third-party reproduction are there to make sure everyone involved is informed and protected. But they don’t have to be an overwhelming quagmire of legalese! We are happy to introduce you to lawyers that specialize in third-party fertility to walk you through the process and answer any questions. We will also help provide you with an understanding of the process and identify important questions with you and your donor up front, prior to entering a legal contract, to help make sure you are on the same page and simplify the process.
Truth: We’re here for you
The best way to dispel any fears or concerns about third-party reproduction is to learn about the process. Our team is unique in that our staff includes previous egg donors and intended parents. We understand this process on a personal level and are passionate about helping ALL families. Don’t let these myths and misconceptions keep you from building the family of your dreams.
